Be Careful Who You
Sleep With
“Now
the Spirit expressly says that in later times some will depart from the faith
by devoting themselves to deceitful spirits and teachings of demons, through the insincerity of liars whose
consciences are seared, who forbid marriage and require abstinence from foods that
God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the
truth. For
everything created by God is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is
received with thanksgiving, for it is made holy by the word of God and prayer.”
1 Timothy 4:1-5
The bible is very specific about sin –
do you take it literally or do you allow the Holy Spirit to continue to draw
you into a deeper revelation of the things of God? Once you move past the baby steps of taking
things literally, God will start moving you into things that open up a whole
new realm of understanding, and an opportunity to get even closer to him and
grow in your faith. One of those moments
happened to me that caused the birthing of this blog. Who are you choosing to sleep with? As believers, we are called to
“love the Lord your
God with all your heart and with all your soul and with
all your mind. Matthew 22:37 Have
you ever considered that doing anything otherwise is considered adultery? Love the Lord God with your heart… The
emotional form of love that takes place within what we call our heart. Love the Lord with your soul… “the spiritual or immaterial part of a human being or
animal, regarded as immortal.”
(oxforddictionaries.com), Love the Lord with your mind… Your thoughts,
your speech…
When you are loving the Lord with all
of these things – you are far removed from the enemy of our souls – and you are
most Christ like. We know what it is
like to love with our hearts, and loving the Lord with your soul means that you
take care to clear out wounds that are left over from old sin, wounds that
cause us to live in issues of our past.
But have you ever considered that your mind is one of the most important
things to love the Lord with? Loving God
is not just an intellectual thing you can do – it’s an active, constant growth
in renewing your mindset. When your
mindset is renewed and you are properly judging each thought against the truth
of who God is, you will be in alignment with the kingdom of heaven – and
fulfilling the greatest request that he has for us – to bring heaven to
earth. He’s ready to expand his kingdom
– and it’s time to clear out the darkness that rules – and the only way to
start doing that is by making sure that you personally are removing all of
those planks out of your eyes so that others can see the example of who Jesus
is – shining through you.
So do you want to see an example of
how this works? This is how God revealed
this issue to me. My Fiancé and I are
just a few short months away from our wedding.
After our divorces, we both decided that we would be single for a while
– pouring ourselves into our work – and for me, my kids. We didn’t know what real love was – wounded
by relationships that left us hard hearted.
It was in that hard heartedness that we were deceived into thinking that
our lives would be better off lived alone.
We were being deceived by a deceitful spirit. And this… is where I was brought to ask – Who
are you deciding to sleep with? What
thoughts are you deciding to hook up with?
Are you sleeping with the enemy, or are you keeping your marriage bed
with God pure and holy? Are you taking
every thought captive or are you allowing yourself to be comforted by the
hardness of your heart, and believing lies that Satan is putting in your
head? God never intended for any of us
to live life alone. Jesus certainly
didn’t do it and neither should we. Even
in his 40 days in the desert when he was allowed to be tempted by Satan, Jesus kept
in perfect communion with the Father.
Because Jesus knew God and loved him with his mind, body, soul and
spirit, he was able to take the pressure of being in the same room with the
prince of darkness, and passing the test with flying colors. He was the perfect bride here on earth so
that we could become the perfect bride to a perfect king – God.
A marriage is special because it is
supposed to be your most intimate relationship.
When you strip your clothes off – are there any surprises? Are you hiding things from your spouse or do
you allow him/her to know you intimately – every detail. If you haven’t guessed yet, I’m not even
talking about sex. I’m talking about
letting your spouse know the true you.
Are you brave enough to let your partner in on all of your scariest
thoughts, your biggest fears? What about
when those demonic attacks hit and you’re thinking negatively about your spouse
– or yourself. You know what I’m talking
about – those moments when doubt hits and negative thinking starts allowing the
enemy to mess with your head, and fear starts gripping you. Are you brave enough to ask your partner to
pray for you? You are a team right? I don’t mean for any of you to feel
condemnation – for any of you reading this that is married to an unbeliever – I
know this is a really touchy subject but do you have a friend that you can go
to for help? I’ll be raw honest here in
saying – that I’m still on the journey of working on my thought life – I used
to have PTSD and it’s not been an easy journey to heal from – but with God’s help
it CAN be done. I know what it’s like to
be broken, to have low self-esteem and battling depression. But God – who is my true love, called me
wonderfully made changed all of that. I
am wonderfully made – you are wonderfully made – and to think otherwise is
blasphemy against God. Yes blasphemy –
you are calling God a liar when you don’t love and approve of yourself. So who is it again you’re choosing to sleep
with when you evaluate yourself – the Liar – or your husband God. Who are you letting in to the most intimate
parts of your life?
Take time for a moment to imagine
having a completely open and raw conversation with your spouse. Can you imagine telling them that you are
having an issue in dealing with sin and you need help? The bible does say "Therefore,
confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be
healed." James 5:16
Instead of struggling in your
independence and silence of trying to heal from whatever issue you’re dealing
with, can you imagine sharing your issue with your partner and the two of you
praying about it together and becoming healed?
If you don’t have a relationship like this, it’s time to start
cultivating one. The Holy Spirit will
guide you in your conversation.
Prayerfully approach the issue under the covering of prayer and ask the
Lord to give you unconditional love from your partner or for your partner so
that you can start walking out a transparent relationship with him/her. Here’s one way to look at it, if you’re
hiding parts of yourself from your partner, you’re allowing yourself to be
under a demonic spirit that wants to shame you away from Gods love and joy that
has been ordained for you and your spouse.
Think back to Adam and Eve – they had no one but God and each other to
share their entire lives with. They
really knew each other completely.
Nothing hidden.
Again, don’t read into this as a sexual
reference. Let your eyes be opened to
see that this type of intimate marriage is what God wants for you. Adultery in this reference is moving away
from God to pursue worldly doctrine, because it appears better and easier to
digest. Just take a pill and you’ll feel
better… Fornication is allowing the spirit of darkness to take up residency
inside you and cause separation between you and God, and possibly you and your
spouse.
He
answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made
them male and female, and
said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to
his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh.
What therefore God has joined together let not man separate.” Matthew 19:4-6 We read this verse all the time and think of
it as meaning an outsider, but what about the outsider you’ve been messing with
that doesn’t belong in your head. Don’t
let the devil mess with your heart, mind or emotions – keep him away from those
sacred things that belong to God. You don’t
want him in your church do you? Then why
do you allow him to reside in your temple?
The body after all is the temple of the Holy Spirit.
God joins a man and a woman together in
marriage to be one with them. The
demonic knows this and tries his best to allure us away from God, and from
being open and honest with each other and with God. In essence, drawing us away into in
adulterous affair and fornicating (through words and actions) pulling us off
the foundation of Christ and His word, to entice us into the darkness under the
premise of light.
Are you wondering why I’m calling it
fornication be in alignment with the enemy?
In Hosea, God asks the bride to turn away from her lovers, her
idols. He called her a whore for loving
other things besides Him. It’s such a
strong way to put it – but God is a jealous lover – he wants you – all of you –
and he’s not willing to share.
Wouldn’t you rather have a love like in
the Song of Solomon – so full of passion and healthy lust for your lover that
you can’t stand to be without them? Or
what about the kind of love demonstrated in Psalm 42:1 “As the deer pants for streams of water, so I
long for you, O God. I thirst for God,
the living God”. Can you imagine lusting after God in such a way that
it’s like being parched without his presence in your life? I know this love affair is what I desire. The benefits of God and his kingdom far
outweigh the benefits of the world.
Enough sleeping with the enemy (Satan)– he is
the greatest adulterer in the world – so in love with the things of the world
that he is cursed by God to hell. Besides – who
wants to sleep with someone whose trying to sleep with everyone else too? He’s a murderer, a thief, and a liar – he
will take you for everything you’ve got AND bring you to hell with him. That’s a prison sentence none of us can
afford.
Father God, thank you for piercing our
minds with the power of the cross. I
pray that my mind is taken captive by you and you alone, to think the thoughts
you think and to speak the words you speak.
I pray Jesus that when I open my mouth, prophecy is on my tongue to
edify and build up your body. Help me on
this journey to understand and learn how to renew my mind to your
thoughts. Be my teacher and guide me into
your truth. Set me free from the
thoughts of this old mindset and build within me a new foundation and
infrastructure so that I may house your holy spirit to its fullness and
power. In Jesus name Amen!
